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Animals Remain With Us In Spirit

Frequently I work with people in my animal communication practice whose animals have transitioned to the spirit world. It is an emotional topic and I am honored to help them connect to their beloved pets after they have passed. My hope is for the human client to gain peace, closure, and possibly even some insights by connecting to their companions who are no longer with them in a physical form.

A client recently sent me this “Raising Duncan” strip by Chris Browne. It sums up so perfectly what I often understand from the animals.

Many times the first communication to come from the animal to their human is “I’m here.” What a comfort it is to know that animals can, and often do, remain with us in their new spirit form.

My blessings to all of you who love your animals, as they love you, no matter their current form.

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Terminal Care and Assistance for Our Pets

I attended a workshop last fall which addressed the topic of the animals’ perspective on dying and when/if assistance is appropriate. The guest presenter of the workshop, Paloma Bärtschi-Herrera, has published an e-book on this subject. I found the e-book to be insightful and helpful in answering some questions about the dying process based on the wisdom of her own animals in spirit.Final Journey image

Animals and the Final Journey:
Help in Passing Over and Assisting
by Paloma Bärtschi-Herrera

This is an emotional topic, but one which we all must face at some point. If  you have an aging animal and are beginning to have questions about resources to help your animal to pass peacefully, whether assisted or unassisted, you may want to consider browsing through this e-book. I started the e-book before my beloved Valentino passed, and finished the book after. While I was at peace with his transition and our agreements with one another, I still found some “ah ha” items in the e-book which helped validate and gave me a clearer perspective on the dying process and why he chose this particular timing and circumstance for his unassisted passing.

The e-book “Animals and the Final Journey” is available on Paloma’s website.  The price is listed on the site; the e-book is 51 pages in length.

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Flower Essences for Emotional Healing – Part Two

Part One of ”Flower Essences for Emotional Healing” discussed the properties and benefits of flower essence remedies, which can offer valuable support for our beloved animals in times of emotional stress. Whether one chooses individual essences, pre-mixed or a custom-blend, the results are often obvious and quick.

Mimulus

Mimulus

This post will discuss common indicators for the consideration of a flower essence, as well as a few essences which I recommend for animals in need. Flower essences don’t appeal to all animals, but those who are open to trying an essence for their particular emotional imbalance tend to know right away if a flower essence is right for them. As mentioned in Part One, Bach is a well-known brand of flower essence remedies and is easily found in most natural food and drug stores. Many other brands of individual essences and custom blends are available and equally beneficial.

Anxiety, worry, certain types of fear– There are many reasons an animal can exhibit anxiety or fear and there are a few different essences which may work well for an animal. Thunder and lightning fear, for example, may be lessened with Mimulus, and anxiety during veterinary clinic visits can also benefit from Mimulus. More extreme cases of terror may benefit from Rock Rose. Aspen can provide a deeper sense of security for anxious or worried animals, and I have used Cherry Plum successfully for calming hyper-sensitive animals.

Star of Bethlehem

Star of Bethlehem

Grieving, loss, sudden devastating changes – Most often I recommend Star of Bethlehem for animals who recently lost a companion (animal or human) or are showing signs of grief and mourning. Sometimes Wild Oat is helpful if the animal seems to lack a sense of purpose after a loss. Honeysuckle is a good choice for animals who may be grieving the loss of his/her previous environment (i.e. homesickness) and is also helpful in supporting animals to release their attachment to a past home or situation.

Lack of confidence, self-esteem, and shyness– Larch is great for a gentle boost in self-esteem and confidence. Water Violet encourages a more confident and social animal. Mimulus (also listed above for fears and anxiety) can help shy animals become more confident and courageous.

Aggression, dominance, territorial behaviors– Fear-based aggression might be lessened with Mimulus, while jealous aggression would be better served with the use of Holly. Vine is a good essence to use for some dominant and territorial behaviors. A disclaimer here: aggressive and dominant behaviors can escalate quickly and I highly recommend the assistance of a qualified trainer or animal behaviorist in addition to the possible use of flower essences.  

Cherry Plum

Cherry Plum

Rescue Remedy (a combination of several essences) – Rescue Remedy is a great “all purpose” remedy which I use for a variety of common stressful situations. Visits to the vet for routine or minor procedures; mild separation anxiety; mild fears brought about by sudden noises (i.e. firecrackers); and any change of situation or environment which could be stressful such as the family going on vacation, moving from one home to another; the first few days of a college freshman not living at home; the addition of a new baby in the home, etc.

Flower essence remedies may be a consideration for you and your pet as you move through life. I have listed just a handful of possible reasons to experiment with flower essences, and only a few of the possible remedies available. Remember, flower essences do not alter your pet’s temperament or personality; essences simply allow your animal to access their natural ability to cope with stress, bringing them back into emotional balance.

If you have a success story you would like to share about the use of a flower essence, please leave a comment!

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Flower Essences for Emotional Healing – Part One

As an animal communicator I work with animals for a broad variety of reasons. Some are straight-forward, others are quite complex. Some animals with which I work exhibit obvious emotional distress; others express some subtle, underlying emotional sensitivities. It is not uncommon for emotional sensitivities or distress to have a direct correlation to behavioral issues, and if left unchecked, could develop into certain types of physical issues.

Occasionally I work with an animal with low-grade anxiety which disappears once the animal feels heard and understood, or has the benefit of hearing from their human just exactly why a certain change in their environment has taken place. Some emotional distress, however, is deeply rooted, or there may be multiple causes for distress. No two cases are exactly alike, and for some animals the support of a natural remedy may assist in working through his/her emotions.

Not every animal responds to natural essences or homeopathic remedies. Many do, however, and often the guardian reports a very positive result. There are many varieties and categories of natural support available – too many to discuss here. Homeopathic remedies (typically dispensed in small pellets) number in the thousands, but the most common are available in natural food or drug stores. Flower Essence Remedies (available as tinctures in a droppertinctures bottle) are also readily available in holistic food or drug stores and can be quickly and easily administered to both humans and animals.

One of the most recognized and available brand names for Flower Essence Remedies is Bach’s Rescue Remedy. It has become so popular, in fact, the packaging is slightly different than other Bach Flower Essences, and I am beginning to see Rescue Remedy in a variety of retail stores. I sometimes describe Rescue Remedy to my clients as the “all purpose” remedy which, in my opinion, we should all have on hand in our medicine cabinets for all members of the family – human and animal. I use Rescue Remedy for my furry companions whenever there is an occasion which may cause a little stress or anxiety – dental cleanings or other veterinary procedures, thunder and lightning storms,  a visiting animal companion, etc. Any time there might be a little emotional disruption, I consider the use of Rescue Remedy.

There are 38 Bach Flower Essences, many of which are combined in Rescue Remedy, hence the “all purpose” status that I have given it. I’m a big believer in the individual essences as well as Rescue Remedy. Each of the 38 has specific properties which speak to individual emotional sensitivities. Flower essences are exactly that – the essence of a particular flowering shrub, tree or plant. Non-domesticated animals have access to these sources for emotional well-being as they wander through nature, absorbing from the plants and trees the exact essence which they are needing in that moment. Flower essences support our (human and animal) body’s natural ability to heal our emotional sensitivities, or help ourselves become more emotionally balanced. Our domesticated animals – cats, dogs, horses, rabbits, etc. – don’t have the same access to these essences from nature, so we can supply it for them as appropriate.

Of the 38 essences, there are 20 or so which I most routinely select specifically for animal clients (part two of this topic will discuss a few of the essences). Sometimes it is beneficial to select two or three individual essences for the more complex or deeply rooted emotional issues. Within each broad category of emotional sensitivities – aggression, anxiety or fears, confidence issues, etc. – several essences may be appropriate. In my practice I’ve found it extremely helpful to identify several possible essences based on written description, then to ask the animal about each in turn to identify the best possible match for the individual animal. I also know that for the most complex emotional issues, a few different essences may be appropriate, sometimes in combination or administered in phases as each emotional sensitivity is addressed.

Dr. Bach is really considered the “pioneer” of Flower Essences (I like this detailed post in the Animal Echoes newsletter about Dr. Bach, his process, dosages, etc.), however others have developed flower essence remedies which are also effective. In my studies I have worked with and used several varieties of flower essence remedies in addition to Bach. Sometimes animals will benefit from custom blended remedies for their specific, individual needs, and some animals are better served to use a mineral water-based flower essence. 

If you suspect some emotional upset in your pets, or if you are an Articulate Animals client and I suggest using a Flower Essence for your beloved companion, I hope this information is useful. We all appreciate emotionally balanced animals in our lives!

Part Two discusses some of the individual essences and their possible outcomes.

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What is Animal Communication? on Live the Day radio

Kelly with client "Cooper"

Kelly with client "Cooper"

I am pleased to be a guest again on the “Live the Day” program on Blog Talk Radio with host Dr. Rachelle Disbennett-Lee. The program will air live on http://www.blogtalkradio.com/Coach-Lee48  on Monday, June 22, 2009 at 3:00 p.m. Mountain Daylight Time. Those listening live can call in to ask questions and participate in the conversation at 646-929-2440. The program will be taped and available for listening after June 22nd at http://www.blogtalkradio.com/Coach-Lee48.

Kelly and Rachelle will explore what animal communication is, what benefits can be obtained through an animal communicator, and perhaps some real-life examples and stories of how animal communication works.

For example, are you curious if animal communication works the same for all species? Or perhaps you are interested in how animal communication can help with behavioral issues. Maybe you have had a pet pass away and you would like to know if it is possible to still communicate with him? All these questions and more will be answered on the Live the Day Radio program on June 22nd. I invite you to call in with your questions about how animal communication works!

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Resources to Assist when our Pet Passes On

This is a difficult and emotional topic, but one that I work with regularly in my animal communication practice. At some point our beloved pet will age, and eventually will pass away. I appreciate when animal guardians seek out communication or counseling services when the time draws near. It can be extremely helpful for the animal and the guardian to have final words and an opportunity for closure. 

loosey1Often the client utilizes animal communication to understand the animals preference – will they be able to pass on their own, or are they asking for assistance? Sometimes I find in my communications that the animal is ready to pass, but is concerned that their human family has not yet reconciled the inevitable. They are seeking permission from their human to finish their transition into the spirit world, as described in this 2-minute audio clip

Even with the comfort we might receive by understanding our beloved companion’s wishes, there will be more questions and decisions for the humans to make. If the animal indicates that assistance in passing will be necessary or preferred, then what? The humans of the family are left to make the decisions and arrangements. Living in the Denver metro area, I am fortunate to know of  Dr. Ann Brandenburg-Schroeder, a DVM who has devoted her veterinary practice exclusively to in-home euthanasia, as detailed in a recent article in USA Today. I have referred many clients and friends to Dr. Ann, and the words used to describe their experience (“The Day Miki’s Spirit Left her Body”) often include “loving; compassionate; comforting; amazingly good experience” – words which may seem out of context given the subject matter, but are heartfelt and appropriate.

Saying goodbye to our animal companion is heart-wrenching. I have recently learned of a website, www.amomentthatliveson.com, created by Adria A. Ellerbrock, MBA, which consolidates a number of helpful resources for death planning and working through our grief.

It is hard to imagine our lives without our beloved animal companions. Perhaps these resources will make a difficult time a little more bearable.

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