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Welcome to the Articulate Animals Newsletter, October 2008 Comments from Kelly
I recall the first time we had his little girlfriend from Doggy Day Care (he spent a couple of afternoons a week at daycare to learn things from other dogs that I, a human, couldn't teach) over for a play date. When she arrived his excitement was obvious - his pug tail, normally curled tightly on his back, was wagging faster than should be possible! After the initial greeting, he started racing around the house with his girlfriend in hot pursuit. He would sprint to one area, stand for a few seconds, tail wagging, then race off to another area of the house. I was not an animal communicator back then, but his actions clearly indicated he was giving her a house tour of all his favorite places - where he eats, sleeps, plays, and he even showed her his favorite toys. After about two minutes of his house tour, they commenced in their full-on puppy play. Ah, puppy love!
He'll be eleven years old next month. He's still a very happy and energetic guy, but we've been experiencing a degenerative neurological condition which I started noticing when he was about six. For the first few years I was determined to "fix it" for him. We identified through a neurological consultation that he was not a surgical candidate, so I explored every other modality I was aware of to reverse, or at least slow, the condition. From the beginning he would always say "I'm fine with it - it is what it is. It can't be fixed. Let's just keep having fun." In my humanness, this simply was not acceptable. We tried acupuncture treatments, animal chiropractic treatments, doggy massage, craniosacral treatments, homeopathic remedies, and a few different vitamin and mineral protocols specifically for spinal issues. With each of these treatment cycles he would give me his candid feedback - loved it, but it isn't helping; hated it, and it isn't helping; loved it, it will help for a couple of days but not for the long term, etc. And always he would patiently go through whatever I needed to make myself feel better - feel like I was at least doing something.
This summer an animal communicator colleague was at my house and commented that Valentino was the most content she'd ever seen him. I responded that he loves these social times and I was sure he was just very happy tonight. She insisted that his contentment was deep, and not just for that fun moment. Later I asked him "so what's up with this deep contentment Patricia noticed?" He said "YOU are more content and accepting of my condition now. When I don't have to manage your worry, I can relax!" Wise guy. I had to ponder that one for a few days. He was right though. In the past year I've stopped trying to fix his condition, and I'd stopped freaking out every time there was a subtle change to his mobility. I realized my attitude now is one of "huh, that's new" to which he would respond "yep, it's new" and we would both go on about our business of the day. Recently I've been more conscious of my acceptance and his increased contentedness because of it. Once or twice he has paused with his one raised eyebrow - "yeah, it's new, but we're not going to that worry place again, are we?" Always the teacher, he is.
Happy Birthday, baby boy!
Blessings, Kelly Resources available on ArticulateAnimals.com Audio clips - Kelly has been featured periodically with Spotlight Segments on Live the Day Radio with co-hosts Rachelle and Christen. Listen to two-minute audio clips on a variety of topics including behavioral issues and environmental changes for our pets. Live the Day is broadcast every Sunday at 8:00 a.m. in Denver on Clear Channel KKZN AM760 and nationwide via live stream at http://www.am760.net/pages/listenonline.html. Newsletters - Enjoy past issues of the quarterly Articulate Animals newsletter, including feature articles regarding pet adoption, preparing our companions for our vacation plans, and pet trusts and estate plans. Understanding Undesirable Behaviors
All of us with animals in our lives, any animals - dogs, cats, horses, rats, human teenagers - occasionally witness behaviors which we hope never to see exhibited again. A deliberate indoor urination accident, digging up the freshly planted flower garden, cribbing, and broken school night curfews are often a means of acting out from frustration, anger, disappointment, or are a means of testing just exactly how much is going to be allowed.
When clients call with behavior related questions, I am careful to not jump to conclusions about the root cause of the issue. True, often there is an obvious disconnect between the human and animal in terms of strong leadership, enough exercise, or good ongoing training and reinforcement. Dogs and horses in particular need consistent training and leadership, but other animals also pick up on leadership qualities in their humans and will generally respond accordingly. We tend to not think of offering formalized training for some pets, and we sometimes let cats and others get away with behaviors simply due to a stereotypical assumption that cats, rats, guinea pigs, and other animals are not trainable. Often, however, when discussing behavior issues with these perceived "non-trainable" varieties of companions, I receive responses such as "I do it because I can" or "I didn't know that isn't acceptable." This response leaves an opening for leadership, training, and discipline regardless the species.
Sometimes, however, behaviors are more than manipulation or testing. Sometimes behaviors are deeper and may indicate other factors. If you begin to witness changes in your pet that you've never seen exhibited before, consider their age. For some aging animals, eyesight, loss of hearing, and loss of mobility due to arthritis may bring about changes. Stiff joints may reduce their ability to get outside or get into their litter box fast enough to avoid an accident. There may be ways to assist, like moving their favorite bed closer to the dog door or offering more frequent trips outside. Lower sides to a litter box for easier in and out and/or a heating pad near their bed can assist elder cats with arthritis.
Loss of eyesight and hearing can bring about confusion for animals. What may have been clear before is now muffled or blurred and is harder to place. Sounds - even voices - or an object on the floor may be indiscernible and perceived as threatening. Skittishness, increased barking or yowling, and fear behaviors may accompany a loss of an animal's sense of sight, hearing, or smell. The slow onset of senility can bring about these same types of changes in behavior. A gentle understanding and explanation of the changes can be helpful for both animal and humans in the household.
Changes in an animal's environment can also bring about short-term or long-term behavioral changes. Loss of a loved one - animal or human - is devastating to our pets and, just like with humans, animals need time and support to work through their grief. Even short-term loss such as the departure of a teenager to a semester at college is confusing and your pet may mourn that loss of the daily interaction with their friend. You understand your student will return for weekends and holidays, but until a few cycles of departure and return are witnessed by your animals, it may not be clear to them.
Occasionally a medical issue can cause changes in behaviors, and regular checkups are critical in your health care routine for your beloved companions, especially as they age. Some medical causes of behavioral changes may not be readily obvious and checking in with your pet may provide answers and symptoms to help health care practitioners provide excellent care.
For example, I recall a nine year old kitty client who, by all appearances, was purposely missing her litter box out of anger and her guardians assumed she was acting out in punishment toward them based on a specific circumstance a few weeks earlier. I began with this assumption but was redirected by the kitty to her physical symptoms. There was no anger or punishment. In fact, she was mortified at her inability to control her urination and devastated that her beloved guardians were assuming responsibility and guilt for her actions. She simply could not control her accidents due to a physical shift in her system. Once the physical symptoms were explained, the guardians acted quickly to relieve the physical problem, and the behavior ceased.
The above is a great example of the need to fully understand at a deep level the root cause of behavioral issues, especially for mature animals when a new behavior is very out of character. Daily observation goes a long way to understanding our pets behaviors, but when causes of a shift in behavior is not obvious, check with your animal health practitioner and then determine if additional information from your pet through a professional communicator is appropriate.
You may listen to a two-minute audio clip on a related topic, originally recorded for the Live the Day Radio program. Other audio clips are also available at www.ArticulateAnimals.com.
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