I often suggest in my consultations that clear, positive expectations can be used as reinforcement after our communication with the pets. The same is true for setting fresh expectations as new needs develop. Let’s focus on your role in setting expectations.
1. What expectation do you want to set? Why? Is it realistic? There is no value in setting an expectation that falls short or is doomed to fail.
2. Be clear with yourself first on what outcome is expected: a joyful use of the litter box every single time; loose-leash walking every single time; polite greetings of humans and/or other animals every single time. When you review what you have just crafted, do YOU understand the desired outcome of the expectation? If not, your pet won’t either!
3. Relax, and know that expectations are usually met over time. There will be successes and challenges in meeting these expectations. Don’t give up after just one attempt. Be realistic and at the same time determined.
And now, the key element is a mantra to use:
Speak it; Envision it; BELIVE IT!
It really is that simple!
Develop the expectation you want to set and speak it with kind, positive words and intention (#1).
As you speak it, let your mind’s eye envision the outcome you expect (#2).
Most importantly, believe deep in your heart that this expectation is achievable. Trust that you and your pet are communicating and the expectation is coming through loud and clear. Experience the bond – the partnership – with your pet as you move forward with shared expectations which you work on together (#3).
Speak it. Envision it. BELIVE IT!